A Personal Message From Elika Kormeili, MFT
Several years ago, I was just burnt out!
It seemed that work was taking over my life–invading my dreams, and impacting my relationships. Getting out of bed was a daily struggle each morning. I would lay in bed every night, reflecting on the millions of things I had to get done, wondering where I put things, and freaking out about being tired in the morning.
Self-care seemed to take a back seat to deadlines at work and family obligations.
I could practice deep breathing until I turned blue, but unless I made some important changes in my life, nothing would help.
As my stress level increased so did my weight. I would eat to cope with the stress and anxiety in my life (figuratively eating my emotions). At the same time, my insomnia was getting worse. I would toss and turn all night, and would struggle to stay awake while driving. I drank coffee and eat sugary foods to stay awake during the day. I went to my doctor trying to explain that something in my body wasn’t right. He told me “it’s all in your head”… or at least that’s what I heard. Irritated, confused, disappointed, and hurt I began to look for solutions myself.
A friend told me to go to a nutritionist. I figured I had nothing to lose. The nutritionist put me on an “elimination diet” as she believed my body was having an adverse reaction to food I was eating. I struggled with all the dietary changes she recommended. She took away all the foods I loved to eat–gluten, wheat, soy, corn, dairy, sugar and caffeine. All my comfort foods, were off limits and now became more appealing than ever. I came home that day and realized that my home was full of things that I could no longer eat. I felt confused, sad, frustrated, deprived, and angry.
Every time I would promise to stick to the “diet”, but then Saturday night would come around, or a wedding, a birthday, or PMS and I would break my diet with a vengeance. Let’s not mention all the times that I would eat foods not allowed on my diet, hoping it would help me to relax or fill a void. It took me nearly six months to become compliant with the diet. Don’t get me wrong the nutritionist was great at educating me on what not to eat and offered some alternatives, but I became so stressed about how to follow this “diet” while trying to have a “normal” life. It was beginning to affect my social life and work life. All I could talk about or think about was food.
I felt so deprived, I needed someone to help me incorporate these changes into my life, so it would make sense and be less stressful. I learned first hand that in order to successfully change your diet, improve your sleep, or lose weight, you need to change the thoughts and behaviors associated with food and sleep.
In my journey, I realized I am certainly not alone. There are other people who are getting physically sick from stress, and not sure how to climb out of that dark space. In in my journey I also learned the frustrations of insomnia. The physical and emotional toll from lack of sleep is REAL. My passion became to help others find their way to a happy and healthy life. That is when I decided to create a holistic wellness program. A haven for stress management that deals with the WHOLE you; a tune up for your emotional and physical health that gets you back on the road to enjoying life faster.
I have learned through my experience that healthy living is about more than diet and exercise. It is about the quality of your sleep, your ability to deal with stress, your current physical health, as well as your emotional well-being. My struggles with emotional eating, food sensitivities, and insomnia made me a better therapist.
Healthy living starts with healthy thoughts and decisions.
Congratulations on your first step toward healthy, happy, WHOLE-istic living!
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