If you’re like me, you’re already thinking of your resolutions for 2018. As the year ends and we start a new year, many of us focus on goals around dieting, weight loss, and our financial goals. Learn tips to help you stick to your New Year’s resolutions and 6 mental health resolutions that will help you stay sane.
I’m guessing I’m not the only one who starts thinking of ways to justify not eating healthy or going to the gym by mid to late January. Don’t feel bad, you’re not alone. Almost 80% of people fail to achieve their new years resolutions each year. Most of us have unrealistic goals and set ourselves up for failing.
Any one else ready to break that pattern and finally get results?
Here are 4 tips to help you stick to your New Year’s resolutions
- Set Realistic Goals
When we start out with unrealistic goals, we start out feeling defeated. Change one thing at a time. Be patient with yourself. You didn’t get to this point over night so you’re not going to see results over night. Don’t expect to lose 30 pounds in a week when it took you a year to put on the weight. This can also be a mental health resolution as it will help with your overall anxiety and perfectionism.
- Get Organized and Plan Ahead
We’re all busy people. If we don’t get organized and plan ahead then life takes over. So if it’s important to you, spend time preparing. If you’re goal is to eat healthy, start finding healthy recipes, and start preparing healthy foods. If you’re goal is to be in a healthy relationship instead of lonely and single, then come up with ways to meet new people and put yourself out there.
- Don’t Tough It Out Alone
We’re social creatures, and we all do better when we work together to reach our goals. Talk to your family, friends, and colleagues about your goals and ways they can help support you. Find out ways to encourage and support each other. Don’t forget about your online community as well.
- Celebrate Successes
In order to stay motivated with need to find ways to measure our progress and to celebrate our successes each week. Small changes add up to make a big difference.
- Learn From Setbacks
We all have slip ups and setbacks. Don’t let it discourage you. Use it as a learning opportunity. Ask yourself, what caused you to slip up? How can it be prevented in the future?
- Treat Yourself (Rewards Aren’t Just For Kids)
Celebrate your success with healthy rewards that support your goal. Be mindful here. If you’re trying to lose weight then don’t use food as a reward, instead try something like a massage or going to a show.
Mental Health Resolutions To Keep You Sane
Losing weight and eating healthy are important, but it’s also important to work on our inner self, those parts others cannot see.
Sometimes, working on those inner struggles (keep commitments may be on of them) make it easier to stick to other goals like losing weight or improving our relationships.
I will be kind to myself. This is the #1 mental health resolution for all of us. If we spoke to our friends the way we speak to ourselves, we would have no friends left. We often say mean and critical things to ourselves. How can we expect others to love us and be kind to us if we can’t do it ourselves?
I will set healthy boundaries. I’m guilty of this and I know many of my clients are too. We work more than we should, bring work home with us, let people take advantage of us, or stay in unhealthy relationships. Define your limits at work, at home, and in other relationships. Let this be the year you say “No” without feeling guilty.
I will commit myself to being physically active each day. If you haven’t worked out in a very long time, it may not be realistic to go to the gym for an hour a day. Make small commitments to being physically active each day, even if it’s a 10 minute walk. Studies have shown there is a link between mental and physical health.
I will learn to relax and enjoy life. Many of us are overworked and the idea of one more commitment that demands our time and energy is just too overwhelming. Instead commit yourself to carving out some time each day to do something for yourself that helps you rest and recharge your mental and emotional batteries. Learning to relax and enjoy life is a critical component of our mental health, so it’s important to have a mental health resolution around it if you are finding yourself exhausted and unmotivated.
I will not allow myself to be defined by a label. Even as a therapist, one of the things I cannot stand are labels. Ask my clients, I won’t stick a label on them, it’s of no value to them or me. Practice this at home, instead of thinking and speaking of yourself as being overweight, anxious, depressed, etc… say instead “I want to lose weight and today I will choose healthy foods to help it”. Instead of putting yourself down for being “broken” try telling yourself “I haven’t always made the best choices but I’m making better decisions every day”.
I will work towards becoming the person I want to be. Life is a journey, and sometimes it’s a roller-coaster. There will be hiccups, bumps along the road, and challenges to overcome. Keep your eye on the goal, and continue to take actions that help support your goals. The important thing to remember about mental health resolutions and new year’s resolutions is that it is a PROCESS. You didn’t get here overnight so it’s going to take time, effort, and self-love to reach your new goals and improve yourself.
Let me know what your mental health resolutions are and how I can best support you. Feel free to contact me with any questions.
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